Kobe’s Comment

Earlier this week Kobe Bryant used an all-too-familiar homosexual slur to disparage a referee, and predictably, someone in the Lakers organization immediately published a press release, claiming that Kobe meant no disrespect.

After David Sterns fined Kobe $100, 000, some criticized the NBA commissioner and suggested that he should simply understand that these things happen in the heat of competition.  I take an opposing point of view for 3 reasons:

First, if anything, we should hold Kobe and others in the public eye to a higher standard when it comes to issues related to tolerance because high profile folks have high profile impact on the wider culture. A profane comment from a member of the glitterati undermines the effectiveness of a thousand “It Gets Better” youtubes.

This more punitive approach may seem a bit unfair, but such is the cost of fame in our celebrity-worshipping culture. (Tony Kornheiser points out that, “Being a quarterback means you get too much credit when you win. Too much blame when you lose. But they never offer to give back the money.”)

Second, Kobe never said the 3 magic words: “I am sorry.” The era of a press release “mea culpa” went the way of the Y2K bug. It’s long over, and nobody but nobody wants to hear the passive voice, as in “mistakes were made.”

Third, while $100 k might make most of us order a “tall” rather than a “grande” for the rest of eternity, in the life of a La La Land Laker, it’s not a significant hit. Rather than fining Kobe, Stern should have suspended him for the first round of the playoffs. If that punishes the team as well as the individual, so be it. (I’m going to go out on a limb and bet that last week’s offense was not the first time Kobe uttered that particular profanity on the hardwood, and if even one of his teammates let him get away without addressing the issue in the past, well then, such is the nature of collective guilt.)

If this consequence actually cost the Lakers a chance to defend their title, just imagine the impact all of this might have had on the wider culture. Talk about teachable moments! “Remember when the Lakers were about to 3-peat and then that knucklehead Kobe cost us?”

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  3. John Amaechi's response in NYT Says:

    After Los Angeles Lakers guard Kobe Bryant directed an antigay slur at a referee Tuesday night from the bench in a game against the Phoenix Suns, the N.B.A. fined him $100,000. Bryant has apologized, saying his words should not have been taken literally. He said he would appeal the fine.

    Kobe Bryant isn’t some great, bigoted monster, as some have implied, but he isn’t the innocent victim of some overblown one-off incident about a word that’s “not even that bad,” either.

    This controversy is not a storm in a teacup turned into a vendetta by loony liberals, as many in the sports world seem to think. What our heroes say and do means something — and in an America where sports stars carry more influence and in some cases more credibility than senators, what they say matters more than ever.

    When someone with the status of Kobe Bryant, arguably the best basketball player in a generation, hurls that antigay slur at a referee or anyone else — let’s call it the F-word — he is telling boys, men and anyone watching that when you are frustrated, when you are as angry as can be, the best way to demean and denigrate a person, even one in a position of power, is to make it clear that you think he is not a real man, but something less.

    I challenge you to freeze-frame Bryant’s face in that moment of conflict with the referee Bennie Adams. Really examine the loathing and utter contempt, and realize this is something with which almost every lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender person is familiar. That is the sentiment people face in middle and high schools, in places of worship, work and even in their own homes across the United States.

    Right now in America young people are being killed and killing themselves simply because of the words and behaviors they are subjected to for being perceived as lesbian or gay, or frankly just different. This is not an indictment of the individuals suffocated by their mistreatment, it is an indication of the power of that word, and others like it, to brutalize and dehumanize. This F-word, which so many people seem to think is no big deal, is the postscript to too many of those lives cut short.

    As for the original apology, I am amazed that people still think apologizing in such a way as to make it clear that it was the victims who misunderstood is acceptable. I had hoped that the sorry-if-you-are-oversensitive school of apology would by now have been thoroughly discredited.

    Many people balk when L.G.B.T. people, even black ones, suggest that the power and vitriol behind another awful slur — the N-word — is no different from the word used by Kobe. I make no attempt at an analogy between the historical civil rights struggle for blacks in the United States with the current human rights struggle for L.G.B.T. people, but I can say that I am frequently called both, and the indignation, anger and at times resignation that course through my body are no greater or less for either. I know with both words the intent is to let me know that no matter how big, how accomplished, philanthropic or wise I may become, to them I am not even human.

    I am tired of people having this debate about the relative impact of pejorative words on their target minority group. If injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere, then the relative power of an antigay gay slur is irrelevant, it is simply a threat to human dignity, and that should appall us all.

    I don’t think Kobe Bryant is some vicious homophobe, but I do think he made a mistake and has sounded more like a squirming politician than a national hero since the incident came to light. When you know that people hang on your every word, you should take more responsibility when the wrong words spill out in anger. When you understand that people treat you like a god, you should endeavor to be more benevolent when you exceed expectations and more contrite when you let people down.

    I started playing basketball at age 17 in the United Kingdom. I went from the fat child who hid in the corner of the library to starting in the N.B.A. six years later. Despite my efforts, I couldn’t hold a candle to Kobe, but even with my limited prominence, I always knew two things: I was always under scrutiny and what I did and said mattered more because of that.

    Kobe, stop fighting the fine. You spoke ill-advised words that shot out like bullets, and if the e-mails I received from straight and gay young people and sports fans in Los Angeles alone are anything to go by, you did serious damage with your outburst.

    A young man from a Los Angeles public school e-mailed me. You are his idol. He is playing up, on the varsity team, he has your posters all over his room, and he hopes one day to play in college and then in the N.B.A. with you. He used to fall asleep with images of passing you the ball to sink a game-winning shot. He watched every game you played this season on television, but this week he feels less safe and less positive about himself because he stared adoringly into your face as you said the word that haunts him in school every single day.

    Kobe, stop fighting the fine. Use that money and your influence to set a new tone that tells sports fans, boys, men and the society that looks up to you that the word you said in anger is not O.K., not ever. Too many athletes take the trappings of their hard-earned success and leave no tangible legacy apart from “that shot” or “that special game.”

    Kobe Bryant is powerful enough to make an important change in the way we look at real equality in sports and in general. Kobe is one of sport’s heroes, one of sport’s gods, and I hope it’s not too much to ask for the occasional good deed worthy of those titles.

    John Amaechi, a journeyman center, played for the Cleveland Cavaliers, the Orlando Magic and the Utah Jazz before leaving the N.B.A. in 2003. Four years later, he became the first N.B.A. player to acknowledge that he is gay. He wrote “Man in the Middle,” a book about his difficult journey from an overweight, British bookworm to N.B.A. player while struggling to understand his sexuality in a masculine-driven sports culture. He now works as a psychologist, educator and social entrepreneur in the United States and Europe.

  4. Anonymous Says:

    Hi Jim,

    Hey right on about Kobe.

    We had the exact same thing happen on our
    campus this week. E-mail flying all week from faculty.
    Academics want seminars, speakers, classes canceled to discuss
    homophobia etc. Cooler heads did prevail.

    We need to take immediate
    action and as individuals we need to speak out perhaps in class. We do
    not need all the things mentioned above. If Kobe had been quietly and
    immediately suspended for the first playoff game. The average “Joe”
    would have said “wow” I used the same words yesterday at work or
    on the way to classes etc.

    I don’t think for example that Mel Gibson
    is an anti-semitic, because his movies, some very good, are made and
    directed by Jewish colleges. Also I don’t believe drunks speak from
    their ‘ secret heart’ feelings when under the influence.

    Having said all that I think being
    politically correct at all times is also a kind of unrealistic behavior. I still
    do let students use the word “Istanbul” in class. It is Constantinople. When
    they ask why I do that? I answer research the word and then ask about
    it in class.

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